Monday, January 18, 2010
Wow it's been awhile...
I think about praise and worship. I meditate on it, and I think that it is sewn into the depths of me inner most part. I have learned very quickly that the answer to any of life's problems, can be found in worship. I think that most people have a misconception to worship. "Let me sing a few songs, and that is all that God needs from me, for me to get what I need." That is the furthest thing from the truth. WORSHIP IS A LIFESTYLE!! I don't think that I can say it enough. As we walk though our day we should worship our Heavenly Father in everything we do. If we have that attitude then we will see everything through Christ's eyes. Worship is not just telling God how wonderful he is, but walking in it, with him as well. My brother-in-law said it best, that we need to "Make love to God." Let me explain, when we take the time to spend with God and truly go to him with a pure heart we are being intimate with him. Intimacy is the key. If as a wife I am not intimate with my husband than our relationship is not complete. The connection is not there. Intimacy is not just a physical thing, but also a mental emotional and a spiritual connection as well. That is what God needs from us. He wants our minds to be his mind, our emotions to rest in his heart, and our spirit to feed on his words. If we get to that intimate place with God, then we will find all the answers to our questions and more, and we will become a complete person in Christ.
I hope that you are able to meditate and get to that place today and everyday, so you can be a complete person in Christ!
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
I am trying so hard to find the answers to all the questions that are going through your mind. There are no right answers to any of those questions. I can only tell you that, the one and only answer is Christ. I have tried for so long to get all of my questions answered, why did my sweet girl go, and you know what I have felt that God has always said to me is, “Just trust me”. I know that is probably the last thing that you want to hear, but it is true, just trust God. In due time, you will see what kind of plan, that he has for you while you go through your grief. I just want to see you take your time as you go through all of your questions, while you try to find your answers. A woman once asked me how do we get through, the only answer is to breathe. When you are sitting still, when you are talking, when you are all alone just sit and breathe. That must sound really trivial, but it is the one thing that is constant that you know will happen even if you don’t think about it. You will have to just put one foot in front of the other for a while, take one minute at a time; then you will see that one minute turns into hours and the hours have turned into days. Just breathe and take one minute at a time, eventually there will be a new normal, for your different life. You will cry, you will laugh, and then you will be still to think. Like every mother that has lost a child you wonder am I normal, am I doing this the right way, or maybe even is it wrong for me to act this way. What ever you feel you need to do to help you, do it. There is no wrong way and no right way to go through the loss of a baby. Cry when you need to cry, scream when you need to scream, and laugh when you need to laugh. If you want to be left alone, say it. Don’t be pushed into anything that you are not ready for. Take your time; this is a process that does not happen over night. I love you very much, and my heart breaks to see another mother go through the loss of a baby like we did. It’s just not supposed to happen. You are now apart of a sisterhood of women that understands the depth of your pain and grief, even though all of our experiences are different. It has taken me awhile to write this letter to you. It’s one of those things that have to be thought out and prayed about before putting words on a piece of paper. God has all things in order for you, and you will see them come to pass at the right time. Trust God, lean on your family, and then ask for help if you need it. Your family and friends love you and are with you to support you right now. If you ever need to talk just call day or night I’ll be here.
Life's Mission
Prayer/Declaration
Baby’s Prayer
I will use this strength to allow myself and others the ability to grieve completely, for this will be my first step to total restoration.
During my journey of grief I will seek guidance not only from the Holy Spirit and my Heavenly Father but from my loving friends and family who may offer wisdom and comfort.
I need to understand that the soul as well as the physical body needs healing and I will take the time to allow the healing to take place.
I will live not in fear but peace, and understand that over time I will see all of the good things that have happened through the life of my baby.
In spite of my understanding that things happen that cannot be controlled, I understand that with the power of the Holy Spirit I can allow God to take control over my life and guide me to the place where my destiny and purpose will be reviled to give me a complete healing emotionally spiritually and physically.
Help me recognize the gift of the ability to carry and conceive no matter how long my baby may have lived.
Help me find the joy and peace in the ability to desire, love and care for a baby unknown to me.
Help me find your healing grace in the belief that this baby knew my love and the desire for my baby to be complete and whole on this Earth or in the arms of Jesus.
Help me find the purpose to the short life that my baby lived so that I might help others through the loss of their baby. Help me to give and help others who are now apart of the “Club” of families who have lost a baby through miscarriage stillbirth or infant death.
Help me to recognize and honor my baby’s life by the way that I live mine, by moving forward and taking control of my grief, and allowing God to take control over my life, so that I might live to find the purpose and destiny God has for me. Help me to learn the full appreciation of motherhood in any way that you have designed for me.
I will listen to and trust my Heavenly Father, because He tells me that, I will once again be reunited with my baby and will fulfill the need to hold baby in my arms. I will allow Him to bring me comfort in the knowledge that my baby knows no pain or suffering only happiness in the arms of Jesus.